Domestic Violence Facts and Links
Violence is a Tool
Used purposely by the perpetrator.
Research on aggression shows that people assault loved ones for two primary reasons: to punish and to control their behavior.
Violence is a Choice
It is not the result of provocation.
Most violent people have control over their behavior. They choose to be violent because they think it's their right and because it works for the moment.
Violence is a Crime
It is a community problem, not just a family problem.
Anyone who assaults another person has committed a crime. Arrest and prosecution for assaults deter many batterers from hitting again.
Domestic Violence Affects Us All
It breeds kids who will use force against others.
It leaves victims and abusers in isolation.
It fills friends, family and neighbors with fear.
It costs our community money - like any other disaster.
To Prevent Domestic Violence, We Can:
Reach out to Victims
- To stop violence, we must recognize and label abusive behavior when it’s witnessed. This creates awareness, letting the victim and perpetrator know we’re conscious of what’s occurring.
- To stop violence, we must interrupt the abuser's control of his victim. We need to let the her know she doesn't deserve abuse and that help is available. We must also support her while she decides what to do next. She may need to make several attempts. Don't give up.
Is Someone You Know Being Abused?
Here are 10 warning signs:
- Seems to have more "accidents" than most people you know.
- Is frequently late to work or often calls in sick.
- Receives harassing phone calls.
- Is expected to be home at a certain time and appears fearful of missing that deadline.
- Has no money to spend as she chooses, even though she works; is expected to turn over her paycheck to her spouse.
- Has decreased or dropped contact with family and friends.
- Abuses alcohol or drugs.
- Is either frequently timid and retiring or aggressive and angry.
- Frequently disparages her own abilities, calling herself names like dumb, stupid, clumsy and worthless.
- Has a number of physical complaints, such as stomach pains, fatigue, migraine or psychological complaints like anxiety or depression.
Don't ignore the warning signs.
Reach out with concern, and remind the person help is available. If you, or someone you know, needs help, see our information on contacts below: